3 Important Grief Resources—Share with a Friend!

Last week, I posted a devotion on comforting someone mourning. I got an email in my inbox from a woman whose friend had suffered a sudden stroke last week. She was spinning from the shock of it and searching for more resources to help. 

As I checked my Twitter feed throughout the week, I was surprised to see many posts on grief from writers whom I respect. 2020 has certainly landed us in uncertainty, and perhaps an offshoot of that is a need to process grief with greater acknowledgement and responsibility. People are hurting.

I wanted to pass along the resources that I suggested to her in my email back. I also wanted to include a prayer for support that I find particularly meaningful. It references the feminine nature of God in scripture, a nature that might feel especially healing when suffering poses more questions than answers:

Hidden God,
You are midwife who works with those in pain to bring 
about new creation. May your healing support us
in our struggle.
You are mothering bird who shelters those in difficulty
under the protective shadow of your wings. Hover over
our troubled hearts.
Come to our help. Bear us up. Be with us in our confusion
and sorrow. Deepen our sense of what remains to us amid
our losses. Strengthen our faith that your divine
compassion is present in ways we cannot see or understand.
We count on your love and mercy. Amen.

This prayer is from Healing Liturgies for the Seasons of Life by Dr. Abigail Rian Evans and is used with permission.

If you're looking for a resource to help you answer grief's questions from a faith perspective, I recommend Jerry Sitter's A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss. If you're looking to support someone who is sick or grieving, I recommend What Can I Say? A Guide to Visiting Friends and Family Who Are Ill by Simon and Karen Fox.

While I do not believe that God wills tragedy, we live in a broken world. Luckily, he experienced that brokenness firsthand too and resurrected. God offers that same power—beauty for ashes—to each of us by faith. No darkness is too dark. Keep straining toward the light; believe in God's promises (Eph. 1:18–21). If you do, God will startle you with his grace, perhaps when you least expect it. When that moment comes, your connection to him will feel realer than anything else. You will know that he lives.

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  1. I am just now finding you, your website and your ministry. This is no coincidence. I needed this insight to share with a friend whose son was seriously injured in an auto accident last week, which took the life of the driver, his very best friend. They are juniors in high school. Our whole neighborhood is grieving as all their children are struggling with this loss. They have all known each other since pre-school. The truth is, I am relatively new to the neighborhood and do not know these families well. Just enough to say hello when I pass them on the street or see them at the grocery. But my heart aches for them and I have been searching for words of comfort. Your conversation here is very helpful. Once again I find myself marvelling over God's divine intervention, even through emails and social media! God bless you! Keep your inspired conversation open! Twitter and Facebook desperately need God's people to provide a counter to the hate, violence and mean spirited voices that take over the airwaves. Sincerely, Valerie Rodriguez-Daphne, Alabama


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